I Don’t Care If You Were Born Rich I care if you were raised lazy

Rich kid syndrome: a kid who was born into great wealth, and doesn’t do shit because of it.

Sound familiar?

It’s a hot button topic, and there have been many debates surrounding it. For a long time I used to talk about it in a very particular way. I basically believed that they didn’t have it in them to build a sustainable business, that they had been given everything too easily.

What I’ve learned, however, is that this doesn’t apply to everybody. I’ve changed my mind. The broad definition given above isn’t always warranted.

The best way to describe my new opinion on this debate is a single phrase: “Everything trickles from the top.”

The way a child sees the world and their approach to life all comes from how they were brought up. Society absolutely plays a role in that, but parents dictate how a child in their formative years experiences society. So when I meet with these “rich kids”, I don’t concentrate on the fact that they are rich. Instead, I spend almost all my time trying to figure out what their past was like. How did their parents raise them? Did they spoil them or did they make them work for what they wanted? Did they teach them the value of having money? What it means as a societal issue? Those are the things that tell me if investing in a business they have made will be a good idea or not.

This is an issue that is very close to me, as I have two young kids at home. But the fact that I grew up in very different circumstances has made me extra self-aware of the issue at hand. I did not grow up rich; my father immigrated from the former Soviet Union when I was very young, and took over a small liquor store. I was able to turn that store into what got me on my initial path to success: WineLibrary.com. My kids are going to be “rich kids”, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to spoil them. Being raised like I was has made me even more conscious of that fact. I will most certainly let them know what it means to work and sweat for something that they want, because I know that it’s up to me to instill those qualities within them from the onset.

Additionally, the “stems from the top” philosophy applies to corporate scenarios as well. The strongest factor in attitude and upbringing comes from those we look up to. Business culture comes from leaders. Bosses can set tones in meetings. When it comes to business, like anything else in life, it all stems from the top. Just like a business’ culture stems from its leaders.

I truly believe that leaders, and subsequently parents, can influence more than we give them credit for. We tend to place the blame on environment solely, and while parents and bosses are part of environment, we don’t scrutinize them hard enough. So while you may be a skeptical about a new app or business created by a so-called “rich kid,” don’t be. First figure out where they’ve come from. Their background might surprise you. On the other hand, their background might make total sense. See what I mean?

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Being a People Pleaser is a Strength, Not a Weakness

“I’m a people pleaser” is not something you expect for someone to say with much pride.

Am I wrong? When you think, “He’s a people pleaser”, what kind of person do you think I’m talking about? A push over? Someone who is too eager?

The truth is, many people see a desire to please people as a weakness. But I don’t see it that way at all. It’s time to start thinking about it as a strength.

We’ve been told by society that it is a negative trait, that it’s a flaw. It’s been perceived that way and reinforced for so long that it’ll take a long time to change that perception. But I truly believe that it can be one of your greatest strengths.

What is wrong with wanting to give? Being positive? Making sure everyone around you is happy? To me, these sound like the furthest things from a “weakness” and it blows my mind why people would want to label it as such. However, it can become a problem, but not in any of the ways I just listed.

When does it become a problem?

When you don’t know how to ask for something in return.

You can give give give all you want, but if you never step up and ask for something back, you’re not going to win. Life is about making connections, finding opportunities, and working hard. When you give someone something they need, when you make a dream a reality for them, they, in a sense, owe you. And they will be much more willing to do something for you because of it. It’s a give and receive scenario, and it’s as old as time. But you have to ask. Nothing will ever happen if you don’t just step up and ask.

So stop trying to overcome the people pleasing part of yourself. You don’t want to, and you shouldn’t let people tell you otherwise. Truly wanting to be able to make others happy is a tremendous personality trait. But you can’t forget to look out for yourself. Be vocal about what you need. You can’t forget your right hooks with your jabs.

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Enthusiasm vs. Action Why You Need One More Than the Other

Everybody wants to know the secret to launching a successful business. And, more often than not, any entrepreneur will have the inner dialogue that goes a little something like this: should I be all out there, enthusiastic, getting the word out? Or should I be nose to the grindstone, pay attention to the details, don’t look up?

Enthusiasm or action?

The truth is, you absolutely need both.

I know a lot of people with massive amounts of enthusiasm, but they can’t execute dick. Then, there’s the other side. People that can execute As on every paper, but without that passion, that bravado or fire, they’re only able to get limited return on that investment of execution.

But when it comes down to it, there is one that rises above the other. And that is action.

I’ve written before about how I think we are in the age of the introverted entrepreneur, and that applies here too. There are plenty of resources for you if you find yourself struggling with the enthusiasm part of the equation. Because when it comes down to it, what is more important: being excited about something, or actually doing that something?

People assume that because I am so outgoing, I’m mostly enthusiasm. But my enthusiasm is simply a byproduct of what comes naturally to me. I am far more action than anything else. If I wasn’t, I wouldn’t have so much going on. You need to put in the work. I pride myself on those skills, and I think my charisma often hides what I really am underneath, and that is: a hardcore executioner.

Don’t forget: I had run a large business before I ever “hit the scene,” so to speak. I was already thirty-years old when I started WineLibraryTV, the video show that put me on the map. I made my business happen, regardless of my personality. That was not the driving force. The driving force was my ability to execute.

So, if you only have enthusiasm, it’s time to find a partner or reevaluate, my friend. If you have the action skill set, use it. Use it a lot. And if you want the enthusiasm, go for it. But don’t waste time betting on your weaknesses. Bet on your strengths. That’s how you’ll win.

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